Therapy for Generational Trauma & Inner Child Wounds in California and Arizona
Online Trauma Informed Care in California & Arizona.
What is generational trauma? Unlike a typical trauma that happens to a person, such as a car accident, medical incident, or abuse, a generational trauma is a trauma that has happened to someone in your family tree and then is passed down like other inherited traits such as skin color or height. Our ways of communicating and behaving are passed down. This is a way over simplified explanation. This is something we could unpack in therapy for several sessions. Let me, a trauma informed therapist, help you be a cycle breaker and heal your ancestral line. It would be my honor to walk with you.
How is trauma passed down?
Trauma and extreme stress can have long-lasting impacts on the individual when left untreated. As humans, we are incredibly adaptive and we find ways to go on living, to cope with stress. Often times these learned ways of living are maladaptive and no longer serve us. Trauma can be passed down. Trauma impacts our behaviors and we pass these behaviors and patterns on to the next generation. For example, we may learn that our feelings are not important or that love is something we can use to shame others into agreeing with us. Perhaps we push and pull in our relationships. Maybe only big reactions are responded to. But we can take a step back and realize these are all poorly learned ways of interacting, and we can unlearn and relearn. We often do not talk about the pain that has happened, but the signs are often there.
Maybe all these thoughts are making you come to terms with your identity. Who do I want to be despite my upbringing? Are there things that I would like to unlearn? That way you can be a better you for your family.
Common thoughts you might be having:
My family does the weirdest often hurtful things
My family is not clear in their needs and wants
There is tension in the air and we don’t talk about it
I don’t like how my family parents
I see my family in me and I hate it
Realization of inner child and mother wounds
Daddy issues and Mommy issues might actually be a thing
Finding out family secrets and it's causing big feelings
Feeling triggered in friendships, work, and other areas
Shame, shame, and did I say shame?
How I can help you.
In my work with you, we will take my approach to therapy where we look deep within yourself to explore your own beliefs, values, and schemas of the world around you. We will explore where these messages came from, and we will work together to challenge them to overcome thoughts and beliefs that are no longer serving you. We will work together to create the life that you want, one where you are able to be more mindful of your actions and kind towards yourself. Remember that you did the best that you could with the skills that you had, forgiveness will be a very big part of our work together.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am a systems therapist at heart, meaning, I don’t just see the person across from me as an individual - no! I understand that you come from a long line of humans. You have so much within you, and working through all that stuff can be a huge undertaking. Maybe you have started listening to podcasts, reading self-help books, and following therapists and counselors on social media because you know you just opened Pandora's box and are craving for deep healing. If so, let me help you. I am passionate about people saying enough’s enough and wanting to be cycle breakers.
Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair!
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy
My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma.
I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room.
I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room.
Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation?
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(805) 255-3305
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