Therapy for Interracial Relationships and dating in California and Arizona

Being in an interracial or intercultural relationship, or coming from vastly different upbringings can bring unique challenges for couples.

The fights often feel deeper and touch our soft spots related to trauma, less than, and feeling “other.”

This is something therapy can help you with.

As a Latina who is married to a person who is Asian American, I understand from lived experience that race, culture, and upbringing can have a huge impact on how we show up in our relationships. I don’t claim to know it all but I do understand that this can be a soft spot for lots of couples.

I aim to provide a space to unpack this together because figuring it out on your own can be overwhelming.

In additional to my lived experience, I have years of clinical experience working with couples and families where race and culture are important conversations that need to be had in order to support a space for healing to occur. 

As a dually licensed marriage and family therapist I often work with people in both Arizona and California.

Common issues addressed in Therapy for Interracial Couples

  • How do you make sense of your own race, culture, and upbringing?

  • How do you make sense of your partner's own race, culture, and upbringing?

  • What are some tender spots that might be related to race?

    • Ideas around gender roles

    • Ideas around affection and intimacy

    • Ideas around shared values and philosophy of life

  • Past hurtful comments by the partner and how to prevent them

  • Past hurtful comments by the partner’s family and how to prevent them

  • What are the areas of strength that come from being in an interracial partnership?

  • Having conversations about how to raise children

    • Religion

    • Disciple 

    • Hurtful patterns we don’t want to repeat

This is by no means an extensive list, but these are some of the more common conversations I have with clients who are in an interracial partnership. I am a firm believer that we have way more in common than we don’t. At the end of the day we just want to feel loved, connected, and understood.

And in my own experience having these hard conversations will help you strengthen your partnership, because we cannot avoid talking about how race and culture impact how we show up in our partnerships. 

Having these conversations in therapy can improve your interracial relationship

  • You will feel more understood

  • You will be able to have a safe space to explore your humanity

  • You will be able to see your strengths 

  • You will be able to work through hard issues and differences

  • You will be able to gain more appreciation 

  • You will feel like you are a team

Hey there, I’m Elisa Blair!

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Founder of Mindfully Minding Me Therapy

My specialty is couples counseling, especially for those who are BIPOC, in interracial partnerships, 1 and 2 gens wanting to break family cycles to step into a more peaceful way of doing life. I also offer depth work with individuals, helping people rewire their nervous system because traditional talk therapy sometimes is not enough when we are dealing with generational trauma.

I work with people all over San Diego, from Little Italy to Chula Vista, to La Jolla, and really all over California since I practice 100% online therapy. That means I can see people from Los Angeles to Fresno to San Jose, and San Francisco. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room.

I work with people all over Arizona from Flagstaff to Phoenix to Tucson 100% online therapy. Since I am dually licensed, I can see people who reside in both states or find that they travel often. And all while my clients get the convenience and comfort of having therapy right in their own living room.

Check out my about page to see if we are the right fit, explore my specialties page to see if I can help you break generational patterns and step into a more peaceful life. Ready to set up a free consultation?