Not all therapy is created equal. There are lots of great therapists out there, but there are also a lot of not-great therapists out there. Plus a therapist might be great but just not for you and your needs. As a consumer of therapy, it is important that you feel like your time, energy, and money are well invested in good therapy.

Overworking can be a common “side-effect” of trauma. We will throw ourselves into work as a form of distraction or as a means to create a sense of safety, which can be a trauma response. Could your relationship with work be related to something deeper in need of healing?

Do you roll your eyes when you think about your in-laws? In-laws often cause people anxiety and feelings of never really being "in the family." Partners often find themselves feeling like they have to take sides. You are not alone and I want to share 7 ways on how to get along with your in-laws.

If you are the type who is quick to point out your flaws and struggles to acknowledge all the reasons why you are great, you might have a very strong inner critic. An inner critic is basically the opposite of a cheerleader. It flares up when you start to doubt your abilities, and when you find yourself nitpicking. Let me share seven ways on how to help it relax.

Where is the line between someone having our backs, verses I had no sense of self in this relationship? It is important to address because having a healthy level of dependence is what can make the difference between a toxic relationship and a healthy relationship. Here are five conversation prompts to have either with yourself, a therapist, or your partner to start exploring if you or your partner (maybe both) are overly needy.

Are you a people pleaser and do you find it hard to make choices, set boundaries, and be okay with other people having THEIR feelings? Welcome to the club. I will go over 5 signs you are a people pleaser and 5 ways to help you as you learn to show up in a healthier way in your relationships.

As a couples therapist, I have heard that love is a verb, where you put in work daily. And I also think it is so important to have balance. A good, healthy relationship should not feel like work all the time. Joy is so important. Being in healthy relationships improves our mental health and well-being. Here are 5 ways to improve the joy in your relationship.

If you are struggling with loneliness you are not alone. Day in and day out I have conversations with therapy clients about how lonely they are and hard it has been. I think just now people are starting to catch up to the complex trauma that was the COVID-19 pandemic. I want to share seven ways that loneliness may be showing up in your life during post covid-19 pandemic.

Have you been asking yourself: Do I have OCD, Autism, ADHD. Or is it trauma? You are not alone. Lots of things in the mental health world are not as easily diagnosed. Many people can meet diagnostic criteria for a few different things and I find that OCD, Autism, ADHD and Trauma have lots of overlap.

Inner child therapy is an approach to therapy, often a type of trauma-informed therapy, that can support a person in healing deep negative core beliefs. A negative core belief is a thought that gets in the way of living our best lives and often has its roots in childhood or a past negative experience. Inner child work might help, here are 5 ways how.

If your inner child often witnessed chaos, was traumatized, or went through stressors that were ego damaging, then you might have an inner child who has wounds. These wounds can have lasting affects well into your adult years. Are you wondering if you have an inner child who was wounded?

EMDR therapy is one of those therapies that feels like magic. EMDR is one of those therapies time and time again my clients exclaim, “I am not sure what is happening, but it is working.” This is often followed by tears and expressions of “finally, I feel better.” Are you wondering why EMDR therapy works when maybe talk therapy isn’t working?

When people think trauma, they think: of war, natural disasters, and abuse. But trauma can be anything that is not nurturing and that impact you in an adverse way. There is still some uncomfortableness around thinking about it in this way, but slowly I find people being more and more willing to consider just how negatively impacted they or others were by things that may have been previously thought to be “not that big a deal.”

Are you curious as to why you are always fighting, and do you want to know what the real reasons might be? Often people don't realize how much the past impacts their neural wiring.

Have you ever wondered why you keep having the same argument over and over again? You're not alone. Lots of people find themselves arguing over the same stuff over and over again. As a couples therapist, I want to share with you 3 reasons why you might be arguing constantly with your partner.

Maybe you have Quiet Quit your job and now you want to quiet quit your family. But now you are wondering if you are being mean and are worried about how to Quiet Quit and if it even makes sense for you.

Fights happen, how can they not? We are not always going to agree and that is okay. I often tell the individual therapy clients and couples I see in therapy in my California counseling private practice that the goal is not to get to a place where they never fight again instead I stress the importance of fighting in a fair and loving way. I help my clients and couples solve their issues instead of ignoring issues or becoming aggressive. Click to learn how!

If you are looking for the perfect Thanksgiving turkey recipe or the perfect pumpkin pie recipe you will not find it here. But if you are looking for the perfect (mostly) emotionally healthy and dysfunctional behavior free Thanksgiving dinner celebration, then you are in the right place and keep on reading.

Crying is a natural normal part of human existence, but crying can definitely make us uncomfortable, especially when it is our partner crying in front of us. Does it seem like your partner shuts down no matter how small the issue at hand is? Do you ever feel like you can never bring up anything for fear and worry that you will see your partner break down in tears? Keep on reading to learn the reasons why your partner might cry so easily and what you can do about it.

Have you ever heard the advice don’t go to bed angry? Of course you have. I feel like this is often advice given to couples at their wedding. I know I had it written over and over again in my own wishful thoughts jar. And I would say that I used to agree with this notion, but not anymore. Keep reading to learn why I don’t think that falling asleep angry at your partner is as bad as people scare us into thinking.